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Post by Sam on Mar 24, 2016 12:32:04 GMT
We are all prone at the best of times (never mind PMDD times) to unhelpful 'distorted thinking' but when we are either under stress or are feeling depressed, these distortions become sometimes much more exaggerated. I would like to talk about the particular types of this distorted thinking, coping mechanisms and how we can try get around it in the first place. Here is the first type:
Black or white thinking
You think in absolutes, definates, good or bad, black or white, with no in betweens. You tend to judge people and events with generalized labels. E.g 'he's an idiot', 'I'm hopeless', 'I'm a complete failure'. You probably wouldn't think twice about condemning yourself completely as a person on the basis of a single little event.
Remember: Opposites can exist closely together. Try to think in shades of grey (not 50).
NEXT distortion: Awfulising/catastrophising.
I hope this helps you.
~S
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Post by Sam on Mar 24, 2016 14:29:46 GMT
Things are never either black or white. When you realise this, quite simply you free yourself from the prison of your own mind. You learn to let go and accept all the grey areas, the ones you wouldn't acknowledge before. Its so easy placing everything in black and white, good and bad boxes. The hard part is realising when you are doing this and then aiming to put a stop to the bad habit. That's all it is, a bad habit that almost always has a negative effect on us.
~S
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Post by Sam on Mar 24, 2016 14:36:14 GMT
Allow yourself to be vulnerable and allow yourself to make mistakes. Everyone makes them, its the easiest way to learn. Choose to see the good where other times you know you only chose to see the bad. Stop misjudging people and situations because of your previous experiences. That was then and this is now.
Let go of all your judgements, misconceptions and preconceptions. Live as if anything is possible. Accept all possibilities no matter how impossible they seem and know that at the end of it all you will be fine. Maybe even more than. Instead of trying to control outcomes try to focus on having positive and empowering reactions to whatever you experience.
Stop passing judgements, stop obsessing about the tiny details, stop over analysing and trying to control all outcomes. Stop finding faults.
~S
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Post by Sam on Mar 26, 2016 19:38:09 GMT
I have created a separate area to continue talking about this topic. You will find it in the tips section.
~S
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